19 7 / 2014

Sad Stuff I Won’t Watch

There are some things I just won’t watch or read. I reached my limit for watching anything with graphic sexual violence in it a long time ago. My sister was watching Set It Off the other day, and I was like, “Why?”.

Now, two things in particular that I’ve seen once and I won’t watch again: A.I. starring Haley Joel Osment and that episode of Futurama about Fry’s dog. No no no no no no NO. SAD!


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19 7 / 2014


I created this Street Harassment and Street Harassment + Misogynoir BINGO card (latter particular to intraracial misogynoir and street harassment as experienced by Black women), cataloguing the most common excuses provided to justify this violence towards women. It’s been on my mind for a while as excuses said to me, some of which I wrote months ago in 10 Common Ignorant Replies Made To Women Who Discuss Experiencing Street Harassment, but also surfaced in response to some of the excuses being used to derail an upcoming anti-street harassment chat #YouOkSis (hosted by @Russian_Starr and @FeministaJones) scheduled for Thursday, July 10th at 12pm.

As you know and I’ve shared here, I’ve experienced this violence for almost 23 years now, and have written about street harassment for two years in detail in my Street Harassment Is Violence (Essay Compilation) with perspectives from a variety of angles including: what I experience most which is intraracial street harassment, street harassment from White male cops/White men who associate Black womanhood itself with sex work and violently so, experiencing PTSD because of street harassment, some Black people’s demands for silence and derailment on this topic because of fear of the White Gaze coupled with lack of compassion for and recognition of Black women’s humanity and call Black women speaking truth to power “divide and conquer,” how it is in fact violence about reclamation/affirmation of power and not “flirting,” the racist and anti-intersectional mainstream media framing and centering of White women as the only victims of street harassment with Black men as only perpetrators, and how that removes other men’s culpability and silences Black women experiences, and many more perspectives. 

Please join for the #YouOkSis chat if you can/able though be aware that racist, sexist, misogynoiristic men of a variety of backgrounds have planned to derail it and harm, however, as there are organized and disorganized campaigns to silence Black women online, in general. And while the focus is Black women— because margin needs to be centered versus silenced—understanding how women oppressed at multiple intersections and dehumanized via anti-Blackness and misogynoir actually facilitates the illumination of the understanding of those usually centered, and this facilitation doesn’t have to occur through erasure or co-opt via generalization. Margin to center is womanism. It is anti-Blackness and misogynoir (and often [trans]misogynoir as Black trans women face brutal street harassment and worse) to suggest Black women don’t deserve the space or time to analyze our experiences and value our own lives, to be clear. Specificity is not “oppression olympics” but is a matter of survival for Black women. 

The chat isn’t only for Black women either; Black men who KNOW that they are more than a violent portrayal of a White supremacist and anti-Black construction of masculinity (and reject performing masculinity as such) and want safer and healthier experiences for Black women and our communities are welcome to be there. In fact, one of the moderators is a Black man. And since non-cishet or non-cis or non-het or non-binary gender Black people also experience street harassment, of course all of these voices matter.

This violence and the excuses have to stop. The demand for Black women to be silent has to stop.

Also excuses leveled at any one who identifies as feminist and won’t be silent about this kind of behavior in general. “You hate Black men”.

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19 7 / 2014






sometimes they’re better than TV

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18 7 / 2014



violence against women is not perpetrated by the mentally ill; it is perpetrated by men who have been culturally coddled by a society that has yet to bear responsibility for neglecting to teach them that they are not owed one damned thing on god’s green earth from women.

Bless this post.

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18 7 / 2014



Attention QPOC poets: Nepantla wants you!

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Attention QPOC poets: Nepantla wants you!

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17 7 / 2014

Self-Publishing: Fad or Function?

I’ve wanted to be published since I was little, ever since I realized how much I love writing. I didn’t just want to read books, I wanted to write them. I wanted to share my writing with hundreds of people and, admittedly, be known for what I do. I wanted to put AUTHOR on my tax return (assuming I ever received a taxable income, which I don’t and maybe never will).

As the years went by, I lost…

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15 7 / 2014


who needs a social life when you have followers who don’t talk to you and you run a blog no one cares about

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13 7 / 2014

"To live in diaspora is to be haunted by histories that sit uncomfortably out of joint, ambivalently ahead of their time and yet behind it too. It is to feel a small tingle on the skin at the back of your neck and know that something is not quite right about where you are now, but to know also that you cannot leave. To be un-homed is a process. To be unhomely is a state of diasporic consciousness."

11 7 / 2014

"I have been astonished by hearing individuals who inherited wealth in childhood warn against sharing resources because people needing help should work for money in order to appreciate its value. Inherited wealth and/or substantial material resources are rarely talked about in the mass media because those who receive it do not wish to validate the idea that money received that is not a reward for hard work is beneficial. Their acceptance and use of this money to strengthen their economic self-sufficiency exposes the reality that working hard is rarely the means by which enough of us can gain enough access to material resources to become wealthy. One of the ironies of the culture of greed is that the people who profit the most from earnings they have not worked to attain are the most eager to insist that the poor and working classes can only value material resources attained through hard work. Of course, they are merely establishing a belief system that protects their class interests and lessens their accountability to those who are without privilege."

bell hooks in All About Love: New Visions (via ethiopienne)

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07 7 / 2014

WTF?! Global Forgiveness Day–this is real???

Started in 1994. I have NEVER heard of this before and it is the stupidest thing I wished I’d never heard of. Look it up, I’m not going into what it is. I just had to say this.

I’ve shared my thoughts and feelings about forgiveness before and this, THIS shit, is just no, just NO. I’m putting this one right up there with Columbus Day, the 4th of July, Lincoln’s Birthday, and other assorted bs marked days that appear on the calendar.

I cant believe Lulu put this in my inbox…

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